Even though their first footstep into a college classroom is more than a month away, rising college freshmen – and many mothers – are already obsessing about what to pack. For most families, this is the first tangible step of the “letting go” process.
As parents prepare to empty their own nest, the desire to feather their children’s nest can be overpowering. How politically incorrect is it to say that this obsession phenomenon is mostly a female trait? In my personal experience, it was the absolute truth. My son had no interest in matching sheets, and started packing at 10 p.m. the night before move-in day. I, on the other hand, would have been thrilled with an opportunity to discuss towel color choice!
De-stress the process
While shopping and packing for college can be a bonding experience, too often it is just the opposite. Reduce the stress by recognizing that, first, having or not having any of these items is not likely to impact your child’s college experience, and second, there are stores where they’re going. Unless your child is headed to Deep Springs College in the remote desert of California, they will be able to purchase whatever they need.
Colleges and retailers provide packing lists. A great place to start is the Bed Bath & Beyond list that breaks items out into categories: Sleep, Organize, Wash, Eat, Study and Relax. It’s at http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/BTC_checklist.asp.
Here are a few items that aren’t on all the lists:
• For laundry: purchase a bulk detergent and label a small container that you refill as needed; dryer sheets; bleach; roll of quarters for coin-operated machines.
• Basic meds: vitamins, aspirin, cold medicine, throat lozenges.
• Cleaning supplies: hand vacuum, lint brush, air freshener, wipes, all-purpose cleaner, paper towels, sponges.
• Decorating: floor lamp, poster putty, mounting tape, adhesive hooks, full-length mirror.
• Kitchen items: can opener, plates, cups, utensils, small salt and pepper containers.
• Hall-bathroom necessities: shower caddy, robe and shower shoes.
• Make mom and dad proud supplies: sewing kit, first aid kit, small tool kit.
• Computer supplies: flash drive(s), laptop lock, power strip with surge protection
• Hangers, not provided by colleges.
• Keychain with clear plastic sleeve for student ID.
• Flashlight and batteries
• Wastebasket
• Plastic storage containers
• Important numbers: Create a file and a hard copy of insurance information, contacts in case of emergency.
To help with the move
Essential items for move-in day that you’ll be glad you packed:
• A dolly makes transporting multiple boxes a breeze. You will make friends very quickly by loaning it to other families.
• A hammer and tools are great for putting bunk beds together, etc.
• A tarp for items on the car roof. The only thing you know for sure is that if you don’t have one, it will rain.
Bierer is an independent college adviser based in Charlotte. Send questions to: lee@collegeadmissionsstrategies.com; www.collegeadmissionsstrategies.com
Read more here: http://www.charlotteobserver.com/2012/07/02/3352056/college-countdown-what-you-really.html#storylink=cpy
Lee, I love that you thought to write this article – so helpful to many families. Here are a couple other things that I’ve added to my own list throughout the years that you might find handy to add for the future publication of this article:
For move-in day – prepare a cooler with water and soft drinks, sandwiches and/or snacks. It gets hot, people get thirsty and hungry and this keeps grumpy moods in check a bit more. Sharing your goodies with roommate and his/her family is a great icebreaker, too. Although your student may not like this, if possible get the cell number of your child’s roommate and/or parents before you leave. You never know when an emergency may arise and your child does not answer his/her cell phone. You have a back up number JUST IN CASE. Promise your child and roommate that you will NEVER use this number unless it is an absolute emergency – then stick to this promise. In time when your child makes other friends and he/she is happy to share contact information with you, you can delete the roommate/parent contacts (or maybe this will become one of your child’s fast friends and when you are planning to surprise your child with a birthday cake, then contacting this new best friend will not seem like such an evasion of privacy).
Hi Anne -
What fabulous ideas – they’ll make into next year’s column for sure. Hope you’re having a great summer. Please let me know if you have any topics you’d like me to tackle.
Lee